Damilola Adegbite
Nollywood actress Damilola Adegbite has advised single women to be more deliberate when choosing partners, rather than accepting relationships simply because a man has shown interest in them.
According to the actress, being chosen by a potential partner should not be the main consideration when deciding whether to enter a relationship or marriage.
Damilola shared the advice during a recent episode of her podcast published on YouTube, where she discussed relationships and the factors women should consider when choosing partners.
She said women should focus on whether a prospective partner is suitable for them and capable of building a healthy relationship with them.
“Ladies, don’t choose someone because they chose you. Choose someone because they are right for you; whether he’s younger, older, or exactly your age, the question is always: Can we love, support, and build with each other,” she said.
Damilola stressed that age should not be the deciding factor in a relationship, noting that compatibility and the ability to build together are more important.
She also addressed older women who receive proposals from younger men, cautioning them against accepting such relationships simply because the attention makes them feel desirable.
The actress encouraged women to consider the man’s character, emotional maturity, and intentions before committing.
“To the older woman, if a younger man is interested in you, please don’t make the mistake of choosing him because he makes you feel desirable. Choose him because he respects, supports, and makes you feel safe,” she said.
Damilola further urged women to ensure that younger partners are emotionally mature, understand what they want, and are willing to respect their children and existing responsibilities.
She said the ultimate goal should be finding a genuine partner with whom one can build a meaningful life, rather than simply choosing someone because he is available or interested.